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Healthy Belief

by Charlie Phillips

One of my passions is reading. Lately, I’ve been reading a series of books on health, spirituality, energy, emotions and science. Or maybe I should say the scientific proof of emotions, spirituality and energy affecting health. As I was reading I began to notice one thing – a lot of them were saying the same thing but presenting it in a little different way.

I have written a few essays in the past but just haven’t been able to put anything down on paper lately. (OK, on the computer) As I was digesting this it occurred to me that my writer’s block (or as someone said, it wasn’t writer’s block just “mental constipation”) was because I was thinking that someone else was able to say it better; or maybe a more honest reflection was, who was I that anyone should want to listen to me? Then it came to me; everybody says things a little differently and sometimes a presentation with a different slant may make it a little more clear.

Of the books I have been reading lately some talk about how our emotions control our health. Over 90% of all our physical problems (as many of these books say) are caused by our own emotions. Then the author(s) go into different ways of clearing these emotions. The next book talks about how to use energy to heal your health problems. As I was reading about this my thought was why not put them all together? Maybe there is a blend there we can use because, as Gregg Braden says in his book “The Spontaneous Healing of Belief”, there is no reason the human body shouldn’t last a couple hundred years. Now that’s a goal I can work toward, and stay healthy the whole time.

Maybe you’re thinking right now that last statement was ridiculous; but stop and consider – whydo you think that? My belief is the main reason we believe this way is we have been told since we were born, and maybe even before, that someone in his/her nineties was old let alone someone making it past one hundred. That is one of those buried emotions that can affect our health, or in this case our life. It seems to me we constantly are being told and programmed that as we get older our eyesight will get weaker, our memory will get worse or a dozen other such beliefs. I have come to the conclusion that the reason those things happen is because we have been told it so often we unconsciously program ourselves to fulfill that prophesy.

Can we change that programming? I believe we can. When I get some of those emails that tell about how many “aids” we get as we get older – you know, hearing aids, etc., I just look at them and say, well, that doesn’t apply to me. Of course, I’m only in my early seventies so I don’t qualify for that “old” moniker yet. That doesn’t mean we can just sit back and say, “Okay, now I’ll live to be 140.” You also have to be willing to make a little effort: exercise, eat healthy, shut off the boob-tube, read a book that challenges your mind. Let’s be realistic here. We are not just one dimensional. As the saying goes: you are what you eat. So, if you eat a lot of fast food, then you’ll probably go out fast.

The few sacrifices (actually I just prefer to call them lifestyle changes) that we make to improve our quality of life, far outweigh suffering with non-functioning body parts. I believe we can all be healers through helping others heal themselves and, by doing so, heal ourselves in the process. I have heard there was a fellow about two thousand years ago who seemed to be able to help people cure their illnesses. If I remember right he also said all of these things I have done you can do and more…don’t remember reading about him giving them pills or cutting them open. I really believe we can all do the same. I think it’s a thing called love of yourself and your fellow man.

Everybody needs to make the choice of what’s right for them. As for me, I’m choosing to be healthy and alert and am working toward that two hundred mark. I think it’s really an inexpensive health insurance; care to join me? It’s your choice; I’m working to be a healer, by that I mean using the things I’m learning about – emotions and energy – to help myself and others heal themselves. But I can’t help anyone heal if they don’t want to be healed. It has a lot to do with connecting with your higher source, the emotions and a little thing called faith and a lot of love.

Charlie

 

Y2K Revisited

by Charlie Phillips

I was looking for a file on the computer the other day and came across a journal I started back in 1999. Yes, I was one of those who got caught up in the Y2K frenzy. It was a great ploy by someone as it was a great boost to the economy; all those survival supplies and new software programs that were flying off the shelf!

In reading that journal now I realize how negative I was in my outlook of the world in those days. Was it Y2K or was it my general outlook on life. On reflection I believe I was just tired of the rat race and chasing the almighty dollar, although I don’t think I realized it at that time.

Leading up to the year 2000 I sold or gave away things that I figured I wouldn’t need after the disastrous calamity about to befall us. I moved out of a 3,200 square foot house into a 33 foot RV. Then I moved from the metropolis to rural Idaho. I had no job, no income and no prospect for either. As everybody knows, well there may be someone in a cave somewhere, there were no big disruptions and things went along as before except maybe for the stock market, which was headed down…maybe because we had bought everything before the non-event. Of course there were all of those dotcom companies. I heard someone suggest back then we should just start a company called comdotcom – people would have bought the stock just because of the name.

Upon reflection, I have to laugh at myself because I don’t think I ever really believed it. If I did believe it, why did I put my journal on the computer and not print it out? Really, wasn’t the world as we knew it suppose to come to an end? If this were true then my computer would not have been functional, would it? Now when I hear a forecast of doom and gloom, I look at it with a jaundiced eye and maybe even believe that it is a possibility – but I don’t let it rule my life. Last year I started marking the dates of catastrophes that were supposed to happen. It was a year-at-a-glance calendar. I would then mark, after that date had passed “NE” for “Non-Event.” (I had a lot of NEs up there!)

So here we are seven years after the fact and what is happening. I am still living in rural Idaho, I don’t have a steady job, income has been limited – but my outlook on life has turned completely around. When I look back – I haven’t missed very many meals, I have a roof over my head, and life is fantastic. Why the great change in my outlook? I don’t think I can point to any one thing. However, I stopped worrying about what the politicians are up to, that’s a lost cause in my opinion; they are bought and paid for and I can’t and don’t want to compete with big business. Maybe some will say I’m just looking at the world with rose-colored glasses. I don’t think that is the case at all. I’m still aware of the problems out there; I just choose to concentrate on the ones I can do something about. The main thing I can do is to change myself. I also have put my faith a little higher up the ladder than any politician. Call it God, The Universe, or a Higher Power – whatever works for you. If I can keep my outlook positive and joyful, it may rub off on someone else and as the synergy grows, that will change the way things are.

I can only speak for myself, but I think that is a heck of a lot more enjoyable than waiting around for the world to come to and end. That only feeds the fear and negativity in your life. I believe it’s time to focus on the positive. You can’t change the world until you change yourself. As the saying goes, you can’t love another until you can love yourself. If you have a negative outlook on life you’re going to have a hard time loving yourself, let alone anyone else.

And as far as Y2K, I believe I used it as an excuse to change my way of life. At the time I could not think of any other way to do it. Yes, Y2K changed my life – and I wake up everyday and thank God I got caught up in it!

Charlie

 

In Fear

by Charlie Phillips

I received some interesting e-mails not too long ago. One was one of those that gave all kinds of dire predictions about what would happen if the Muslims were not kept in check. Then there were others that said the Jews controlled all the money and were calling all the shots, and more of the same, on and on and on. Any number of things that are the reason we have to do this or that to “save the world”.

I admit that in the past I really got wrapped up in politics, but I finally came to the conclusion that for me it was a lost cause. The more I see of these e-mails the more I begin to realize that the main purpose of them is to keep us in constant fear. If we can be kept in fear (fearful) of ‘whatever’, we won’t question too strongly why we are invading this country or passing this bill that, while purporting to secure our safety, really takes our rights away. It seems to me that most of the laws that have been passed since 911 do more to take away the rights of the individual American than any supposed terrorist. This again, I believe, is because we are being “fed” fear.

Throughout history you will see that those who have been conditioned by fear do not reason well. They have fought to overcome this religion, that boogeyman or whatever the powers that be wanted someone else to die for. It was and always has been told to us that, if we don’t do this or that, then this terrible thing is going to happen.

Let’s go back and read the Bible. It says, “Thou shall not commit murder”. No, it doesn’t say, “thou shall not kill”; the word, when translated into our modern English is “murder”. It also says if someone breaks into your house at night you have the right to kill him or her. Notice it says if they break into your house; you are not to go into their house and kill them because they broke into your home. Now if we were to apply that same principle to our nation instead of just our home, that would sort of rule out invading another country, wouldn’t it? And isn’t it strange how many “Christians” believe that it is okay to invade, bomb and kill people in their own country, in their own homes?

Now don’t get me wrong; I’m not some Bible thumper, but I have read it a few times in the last couple of years and I find that most who claim to believe that the Bible is the only word have a tendency to only want to pick and chose the verses that fit them and their present situation. It’s really quite amusing to watch them; if you quote a verse from the Old Testament they will say the New Testament negates it. Then they will turn right around and quote a verse from the Old Testament to back up their position. I do not try to argue with them – that is their belief and who am I to tell them any different. I certainly don’t have any divine insight to all of this.

About two thousand years ago a fellow named Jesus said we should love our enemy. Now I’ll be the first to admit that is no easy task. As a matter of fact it is down right difficult. Try it right now; think of someone who bothers you, I mean really bothers you. Someone you don’t like – maybe someone you actively dislike. Can you love him/her? Now imagine how much harder it would be if they were a real enemy!

Now lets apply that to the situation today. We are being told that we should invade Iran because…??? Could it possibly be because those in power want you to be fearful of others you don’t understand culturally, emotionally and ideologically? Someone could sure make a lot of money on war, now couldn’t they? Stop and think for a moment, have you ever been harmed by anyone from another country? Even if you were offended or maybe even physically harmed, is it worth your life or the life of your son or daughter?

If you really research history, you will find that most wars cannot be justified. You will find that the reasons we are given to justify going to war are usually made up ones. As the saying goes follow the money and you’ll find the real reason for a war – any war.

I believe it’s time to quit living in fear. Lets do as Jesus said and live in love. I know this is a hard concept to swallow, but where has fear gotten us for the last two thousand years? Living in love doesn’t mean we can’t protect ourselves. Remember if he or she invades – well lets quit being the invaders. We build a fence not out of fear of our neighbors but to define who and what we are. Why should it be any different for a country?

Have you ever walked down the street and someone you didn’t know smiled and said “Hi! Nice day isn’t it?” Admit it, that changed your mood, didn’t it? Now just think if we all did that. The mood of the whole world would change and then we would be on the path to living in Love. To me that sounds a heck of a lot better than living in fear. Fear is just negativity, love is positive. Ever been around a real negative person? It doesn’t take long and you want to find a reason to get away from that person.

If your living in fear, your living in negativity, and the only reason some will associate with you is they are in fear also. We’re all in so much fear we don’t even know who we are anymore. I think it’s about time to step out of the fear and into love. If something happens that starts to take you off course, stop, take a deep breath, maybe two or three, and ask yourself if the thoughts you are having will take you to love – or fear. Lets start choosing love. We will be better for it and so will the world.

Does choosing love sound like a difficult task? The next time something really starts to get you upset consider – is this causing fear? If it’s causing fear then decide right then and there that you are not going to live in fear. Worrying about it won’t solve it. That will be your first step in living without fear and stepping out into the world with love. I think it might be a little like; do you want the red or the blue pill? Which one will you take?

Charlie

 

Struggling with Spiritual

by Charlie Phillips

I have wrestled with this thing called your spiritual side for many a year. When someone would say to me, you need to get in touch with your spiritual side I would close down. I was brought up in a strict religious, church going family. I started rebelling against the church when I was a teenager, so when someone said I needed to get in touch with my spiritual side; to me they were saying go back to church.

Now for me that was not an option. I had tried going back to a few different churches and I could never find one that I felt comfortable with. A few years ago I started re-reading the Bible, it had been at least forty years since I had even looked at one. I guess I picked up one that had been changed, because it was saying things that were different than what I had been taught as a kid. Of course it was the same bible that my folks had given me when I was about fourteen. I guess maybe because I was just reading it without any preconceived notions, or maybe because I read the whole thing and not just the selected parts.

This started me on a quest, which I’ll probably be on for the rest of my life. The problem I have with most churches is that they accept the bible as the final word and won’t even look at any other evidence of history. If there is anything said that might contradict how they have been told to interpret it, they just say it’s not possible. To me that is just not acceptable. I’m sure there are those who say we don’t have to look because we know this is the truth. For myself, I have found that a lot of what we thought we knew as truth, turned out to be something entirely different.

About this point your probably wondering ok where is he going with all of this, we’ve heard all these religious arguments before. True enough, I am just trying to establish where I am coming from. This spiritual thing is a whole new ball game for me.

OK what is this spiritual side? To me it is getting to know and accept yourself. Once you start down that path, then you start to realize, you have to also love yourself. For those of us that have been around for over a half a century that is a little hard to come to grips with. After all, men had to be tough, showing emotions was not allowed. Wonder whom the insidious jackass that came up with that was?

Lets go back to loving yourself, just what does that mean. Like any form of love putting it in words is never easy. I mean, gee whiz I want to be taller, more muscular, better looking, etc. I don’t believe that is what this is about. We have to accept our inter-self, how we think, act and react. When someone cuts you off in traffic, can you just forgive them? How about when it happens apologize to them for being in the way. Wow now he’s gone off the deep end. Well maybe, but I have read some who say that any negative reaction is caused by our own self and if we apologize to the person that we think created that negative reaction then both will benefit.

If we can’t love ourselves then how can we love anyone else? Is love, hate too strong? Well if we are uncomfortable with who we are, isn’t that going to cloud how we see others? When you look up the original word for devil in the bible, one of the definitions in Strong’s concordance when translated into English is adversary. Now who is our biggest adversary? In my opinion our biggest adversary is our own ego. Does your own ego keep you from loving yourself? I think it does, because we don’t want to admit that we are wrong, or something we did caused the problem, no it had to be the other person. That brings to mind a saying I heard years ago, “My situation is myself.” Darn I think that means I’m responsible for myself.

Once we can love ourselves, we can begin to love others. Now the bible says to love your enemy, that’s a tough one. Well how about when someone does something that we disagree with or is against your core beliefs. What if instead of getting mad or upset with that person or thing you stopped and thought to yourself, that poor person sure must be lacking in love. Put your love out, if you can’t direct it directly to that person or thing just put love out to the universe and let it go where it will do the most good. If they will accept it good if they can’t then someone else can have the benefit.

If I had heard that a few years ago, I probably have said what in the world is he talking about? Has he become one of those New Ager guys with all kinds of wild ideas? Putting love out into the universe, how can you do that? Maybe that’s what this spiritual side is about. Because it makes sense to me now and I can feel love and wish love to go out from me to someone or just out to the universe for whom ever needs it. It’s actually a great feeling when you do it and as the old saying goes what goes around, comes around. Now I don’t know about you, but for me I prefer to have love coming back to me.

Charlie

 

The Weaker Sex

by Charlie Phillips

I have thought about this fallacy of the weaker sex for quite sometime. If you grew up in the last half of the twentieth century, you have been subject to the notion that women are the weaker sex. For the most part men are physically stronger, but is that what that really means? It is said that if men had to bear every other child in a marriage that the maximum family size would be three children. So how do we rate this thing called the weaker sex?

The root cause of the problem, that one is the weaker sex, might be that we really don’t want to let go of our preconceived notion of who we are. That brings up the question why did you become a couple. Was it because you were lonely, convenience, or was it love? If it was love, why have you stopped growing as a couple? It is probably a sense of false pride, that won’t allow us to see anything but our own concerns. I believe that if a couple makes the decision to work toward their own completion, they can put aside these personal concerns. Granted this will have to be the goal of both in the relationship.

If and when a couple can make this completion we can begin to forget about which is the weaker sex, because the truth is neither. Each one has strength’s the other doesn’t but when they work together the combined strength is greater than they would ever have as an individual. I have used the word completion in regards to a couple, but in truth we should never consider ourselves complete, because life is a continued learning experience and the couple that learns and grows together will come close to being complete, while others will just exist.

Where does the weaker sex aspect of this come in? If you start looking into ancient religions you realize that there was a lot more respect for the women than what we are led to believe in modern times. They held the woman up as a priestess. She had a lot more respect than modern religion gives to the woman. The underlying theme is that her power was not complete until she also had a King. Together they had power; individually their powers were limited. Could this modern view of the woman being the weaker sex be a myth propagated by some of the good old boys? They don’t want to relinquish their power seat and if they admitted that the woman wasn’t weaker they might not be able to hold their power. We can see that this is the case in some modern religions.

For a couple to be complete and growing together can be rather scary for those of us that have been around the block a time or two. To become complete we have to surrender and that goes against all that we have been taught. What if both partners could surrender for the good of the whole, would it be worth it? Do you think that having a partner that makes you stronger, and is surrendering to you while your surrendering to him/her, might just be worth the journey? What if that journey included the love you had in the beginning? It could grow even deeper than what brought you together. It seems to me that this should be the goal of every couple.

The other part of all this surrender is communication. If you can’t discuss things and I mean all things how are you ever going to be complete? If you have a secret desire how can that desire ever be fulfilled? Your partner is not a mind reader and neither are you, so if you can’t discuss everything it means you are keeping a secret from the other. Talking is important, but there are two sides to communication and the other is listening. Often we are so busy trying to get our own point across that we don’t even hear what the other one is saying. Most of that, I believe, is our ego getting in the way wanting to be the superior one. If we can surrender and put our ego aside we can become complete and in that completion will emerge two people who are capable of achieving a level of love and understanding that most can’t even dream about.

Some men say that women just want to control us, and have no respect for men as a person. Whereas some of those same men talk about women and they have very little respect for the woman. Who is right? There are some women that want to dominate and some men that figure a woman is only good for one thing. That is really a sad situation, but it is only a couple of scenarios. I am not even going to try address the couples that are not in a harmonious relationship, but are satisfied with that relationship. One of the problems I think is we are always looking at it from our own personal point of view. What would happen if we tried looking at it from the other person’s point of view? Same problem would probably look completely different. To take it a step further how about a couple looking at it from their point of view. What if we actually tried to solve the problem for the benefit of the couple, instead of our personal viewpoint? This of course is assuming that you actually want to improve your relationship.

I think this is where we have missed the boat. We are so hung up on being the one in the right that we lose sight of the fact that we should solve whatever this problem is as a couple. This is easier said than done. Early on in a relationship we are trying to please the other one so we give in to his/her wishes. Later on we start worrying that the other one is taking advantage of us, or we just don’t worry about pleasing them as much as we did in the beginning. This is probably just a fact of human nature. So do we have to accept that or can we do something about it? Have you ever seen the couple that has been married for forty plus years, yet she still slides over next to him when they get into the car, or they openly hold hands or hug in public. Do you look at that and think why don’t I have that, or do you figure that one of them is dominating the other? I think if we are honest with ourselves we are just a little jealous. Or could it be that we are afraid that if we show some emotion in public, that there maybe some friend that would think we are weak? A true friend would never think that and we are the weak one, because we can’t be open with our emotions, especially if it is love.

As a couple you have your mate, your soul mate, or your husband/wife which every connotation you want to use, but what if instead we considered them our God/Goddess? If we were to use this phraseology would that make us stop and think of how we treat each other. Would you make a stinging remark to you God/Goddess? To make that commitment means we have to trust our partner completely and both have to want to work to the goal of having a loving and harmonious relationship. Isn’t this the real reason we became a couple? If not then you probably belong in the just exist column. Assuming that it was love that brought you together, again I’ll ask why do we drift apart? Was it because you were afraid to give in because that might make you the weaker sex?

I don’t believe that man or woman was meant to be alone. I believe that neither is complete until they become one. Most of us though never become complete, because our pride gets in the way. We always want to make sure we are the winner, when in fact; becoming the winner means we all lose. Why don’t we go back to the way we as a couple were at the beginning? Or maybe lets take it a step further. How about if we look at it from both sides and find out what will make us as a couple the winners. To be able to do this the couple has to decide and work toward the good of the whole instead of the individual. At that point the couple will be on a path few have traveled, but many have wished for. Instead of just wishing to be on that path, why not walk it.

Charlie

 

Completion of a Couple

by Charlie Phillips

I don’t believe that man or woman was meant to be alone. I believe that neither is complete until they become one. Most of us though never become complete, because our pride gets in the way. We always want to make sure we are the winner, when in fact; becoming the winner means we all lose. Why don’t we go back to the way we as a couple were at the beginning? Or maybe lets take it a step further. How about if we look at it from both sides and find out what will make us as a couple the winners. To be able to do this the couple has to decide and work toward the good of the whole instead of the individual. At that point the couple will be on a path few have traveled, but many have wished for. Instead of just wishing to be on that path, why not walk it.

Maybe the reason we don’t walk it is we really don’t want to let go of our preconceived notion of who we are. One of the problems I think is we are always looking at it from our own personal point of view. What would happen if we tried looking at it from the other person’s point of view? Same problem would probably look completely different. To take it a step further how about a couple looking at it from their point of view. What if we actually tried to solve the problem for the benefit of the couple, instead of our personal viewpoint? This of course is assuming that you actually want to improve your relationship.

That brings up the question why did you become a couple. Was it because you were lonely, convenience, or was it love? If it was love, why have you stopped growing as a couple? It is probably a sense of false pride, that won’t allow us to see anything but our own concerns. I believe that if a couple makes the decision to work toward their own completion, they can put aside these personal concerns. Granted this will have to be the goal of both in the relationship.

As a couple you have your mate, your soul mate, or your husband/wife which every connotation you want to use, but what if instead we considered them our God/Goddess? If we were to use this phraseology would that make us stop and think of how we treat each other. Would you make a stinging remark to you God/Goddess? To make that commitment means we have to trust our partner completely and both have to want to work to the goal of having a loving and harmonious relationship. Isn’t this the real reason we became a couple? If not then you probably belong in the just exist column. Assuming that it was love that brought you together, why do we drift apart? Was it because you were afraid to give in because that might make you the loser or weaker one?

For a couple to be complete and growing together can be rather scary for those of us that have been around the block a time or two. To become complete we have to surrender and that goes against all that we have been taught. What if both partners could surrender for the good of the whole, would it be worth it? Do you think that having a partner that makes you stronger, and is surrendering to you while your surrendering to him/her, might just be worth the journey? What if that journey included the love you had in the beginning? It could grow even deeper than what brought you together. It seems to me that this should be the goal of every couple.

The other part of all this surrender is communication. If you can’t discuss things and I mean all things how are you ever going to be complete? If you have a secret desire how can that desire ever be fulfilled? Your partner is not a mind reader and neither are you, so if you can’t discuss everything it means you are keeping a secret from the other. Talking is important, but there are two sides to communication and the other is listening. Often we are so busy trying to get our own point across that we don’t even hear what the other one is saying. Most of that, I believe, is our ego getting in the way wanting to be the superior one. If we can surrender and put our ego aside we can become complete and in that completion will emerge two people who are capable of achieving a level of love and understanding that most can’t even dream about.

If and when a couple can make this completion we can begin to forget about the notion that one or the other is getting the upper hand. Each one has strength’s the other doesn’t but when they work together the combined strength is greater than they would ever have as an individual. I have use the word completion in regards to a couple, but in truth we should never consider ourselves complete, because life is a continued learning experience and the couple that learns and grows together will come close to being complete, while others will just exist.

Charlie

 

Eight Letters

by Charlie Phillips

Just eight letters can mean so much. What eight letters am I talking about U I O E V Y O L, now you say that doesn’t make any sense, so lets move them around a little, “I Love You.” Three little words that can mean so much, and at the same time are often said without much thought. To some it can only be related to the physical act of love.

In today’s culture a lot of what is called love is just the physical act. This is not love it is merely physical, but is often confused with the emotion of love. The truth is that true love is emotion pure and simple. Does that mean love can’t be physical, absolutely not the physical part of it can be the completion of love. That is the way it should be, the physical act should be a fulfillment of love, not an end unto itself.

We have the other form of love such as a mothers love for her child and visa versa. This love is a bond that lasts forever. I’m in my sixties and yet my mom still worries about her little boy. This feeling goes both ways, yet I’m sure a mother’s love is stronger than that of her siblings.

Sometimes the person saying, “I love you” is doing so just because they know that’s what the other wants to hear. In that case a disservice has been done and it really affects both. The one who says it knows he/she isn’t being honest and the one hearing it has a false hope. In the end they both lose.

Maybe if we applied a honest look at the world we would discover the main reason for all the turmoil is because we as humans have forgotten how to love. A lot of our actions bear this out, we have road rage, warfare, politics and a thousand other things that we get caught up in and it’s always the same. We have to win. Well when it’s all said and done, just what have we won. It’s been said that he who dies with the most toys wins. What does he win he’s still dead? Maybe someone who doesn’t have many toys but lives longer with a partner that he loves, and who loves him is really the winner. It would appear to me that all the toys in the world aren’t going to bring much real happiness if there is no love. Now if you love what you are doing and also make a lot of money at it that would be one thing. If you’re just doing it for the money then your goal is just material things. To some people material things are everything, but what happens when you either get everything or you can’t get something you think you want. There is always that person who is right behind you out to get more than you have, so the race is on and never finished.

I have known many wealthy people and some enjoy life, but so many are so busy making sure that nobody is getting ahead of them or out doing them that they never take any real time out to smell the roses. They also have a tendency to only associate with people who can benefit them in business or is in the proper group. They couldn’t even imagine having a friend just because they liked him. I guess in some ways you can’t blame them because they have to be cautious because someone is always trying to use them also.

Now having put those on the tables so to speak, how about the real emotion of love.

The American Heritage dictionary has many explanations for it. Among them are:

1. To have a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward (a person).
2. To have a feeling of intense desire and attraction toward (a person).
3. To have an intense emotional attachment to.

All of these listed are the emotion of love. If you really love someone and tell him or her so, and if you hear the same back from them, admit it you heart skips a beat. Your outlook on life just got a little brighter. Those three little words, eight letters, can make your whole day. Without love we just exist. Some say money makes the world go round, but it wouldn’t be much of a world without love.

I think I prefer a life of unconditional love, with someone who loves me the same way. To me that makes the love for material things pale by comparison. Maybe you just have to reach a point in life where you decide that material things really don’t matter. As long as you have a place to sleep and food to eat, and someone to love that is the real meaning of life. As long as you can say and mean it with all your heart “I Love You” then you have the essence of life. This of course is just one man’s opinion.

Charlie

 

Five Emotions

by Charlie Phillips

It is said that man is driven by one of these five emotions Fear, Lust, Greed, Vanity, and Jealously. As you look at that list do you notice anything missing? Well I do, what happened to Love? Is that so foreign to mankind that we don’t even recognize it as an emotion? Unfortunately in this modern world, I believe this is true.

We are taught from early childhood to operate from fear. We were fearful of being punished because we might have done something wrong. In church were taught that you had to fear God, careful do the right thing or you would be punished. If something went, what we perceive to be, wrong we must have been doing something we shouldn’t have. Fear is probably our biggest motivator, governments use it to make sure we obey all their rules; our parents use it to make sure we won’t get into trouble. We use it on ourselves to make sure we make that payment, deadline, or any of a thousand other reasons. We allow ourselves to be stuck in fear, because that’s how we’ve been programmed. One analogy based on my brief stint of auto racing might be if a person goes too fast thru a turn it scares them, they think I could have rolled my car over. A race driver goes through the same turn and thinks what could I do to go through a little faster. Does that mean he/she is reckless, no it just means they are enjoying the experience instead of fearing it. Isn’t it time we started enjoying life, instead of fearing it?

Lust now that is something that is pushed at us everyday. You only have to watch TV for a little while and lust is shown as something normal. There is lust for every occasion, lust for that new car, the girl down the street, or maybe it’s a job promotion. Could lust be envy or greed in disguise, if we lust for something is it because someone else has it, but you don’t? You don’t hear much about a lust for life, that might be a little like love, can’t have that it’s against the rules you know. Now lets think about that for a minute, if we have a lust for life, that won’t take away from anyone or hurt anyone for that matter. We have been programmed into believing that to get ahead someone else has to move down. Maybe that’s why the lust for life is seldom mentioned, if we had a lust for life, we wouldn’t be living in fear. How can the dark side feed off of us if we don’t have the fear?

We think we know greed, must be that businessman and his greed for profit. Isn’t greed just wanting what we don’t have? Or maybe what we don’t even need. If we were honest we would recognize that we all are greedy. Just let someone ask you to give up a few dollars or sometime with no compensation and we try to find an excuse. It can be something as simple as one brother taking the last piece of pie instead of sharing it. We also have a hard time letting go of an idea or a wish for something to benefit us, even if it means someone else would lose. I don’t think there is one among us who doesn’t at some point have a hard time of putting greed behind us. We really don’t think of it as greed, we just want to keep what is ours. We only consider it greed when someone else won’t give us his or her share. It still amounts to the fact that for your greed to come to fruition someone else has to lose.

I know that none of us suffers from vanity; of course we wouldn’t be caught in town with those old faded and patched jeans, that’s just preserving out image or is it modesty. Couldn’t call that vanity. Maybe a better analogy would be telling someone about our job, do we embellish just a little, especially if talking to someone we think we should impress. This is really tied to our ego; it has to be better or stronger. We must remember the old saying pride goeth before the fall. Isn’t our ego and pride the same thing? Isn’t vanity just our ego trying to assert itself? As long as we let our ego rule us we will never be able to face anything except the fear.

Jealousy probably ranks right behind fear. We’re jealous of the guy with the new car, or the good-looking date, or maybe he/she has money. Yet if we had those things would we be satisfied, probably not. Jealousy quite often replaces trust. This is not to say we should just blindly trust everyone, not everyone out there is a nice guy. I recently read a good description of discrimination, it is accepting or rejecting someone or thing without judgment. In other words there are things and people whom we want to be with and others we don’t. That’s not to say there is anything wrong with those we don’t want to be with, just that they’re not right for us.

This brings us to the forgotten emotion love. Why is this so difficult? We all want love, but are we willing to give love? Therein lies the problem, we are afraid to give love. If we do we might get hurt, we might be seen as weak. We have a multitude of different excuses. It’s like the quote by Mark Twain “Everyone wants to go to heaven, but nobody wants to die to get there.” Same thing with love everybody wants it but none want to freely give it. I think the truth is it would also require us to be honest with ourselves. That would mean we would have to take responsibility for our own actions and thoughts. Luck or fate has nothing to do with it, we get back what we put out. Don’t the Scriptures say you reap what you sow? Why do we find that so hard to deal with? When we live in fear that’s what we are going to get. It’s really up to us; we have to make a conscious decision as to the path we are going to take. Is it simple or easy? No as a matter of fact it takes concentration and hard work. It’s easy just to follow along someone else’s footsteps, but to strike out on your own journey on a path maybe never tread before, that can be a little intimating.

The question arises how do we make the change? The only thing I can tell you is what worked for me, you are going to have to find your own path. For me I reached a point when I realized that I was putting a negative outlook on almost all I did. I was worried about things that I thought might be coming. We all hear rumors about the government doing this or the economy taking a crash. Now I didn’t walk around with a cloud over my head, and to be truthful I had adopted the attitude that if I was meant to get through whatever was coming I would and if not I wouldn’t. Through all of this though I would still find myself getting uptight when I would hear some of these things. I reached a point where I said; I have to change my outlook on life. Just getting along was no longer what I wanted from life. I had been reading various books and realized that nothing would change until I did. So whenever I found myself getting uptight I would stop and say to myself, that’s not putting out love. This is not really very hard to do if you are honest with yourself, and want to make a change in your life. That is not to say it doesn’t require effort and being aware of your thoughts, it’s something you have to make a conscious effort to achieve.

If and when you decide to walk that path you will find yourself connecting with others as never before. When you make that connection you will wonder, why did I ever hesitate? You will then start to experience the lust for life. The experience and connectivity on that level is beyond description. To which I can only say, have a great journey.

Charlie

 

Afraid of the Tears

by Charlie Phillips

Having trundled around this place we call earth for threescore plus years means I grew up in an era when men were not allowed to show any emotion. Men were to be tough, don’t cry, real men don’t cry, etc. Men are the strong protectors, the breadwinner and warrior and the only emotion allowed is anger. Is it any wonder this world is messed up.

Now there is nothing wrong with being a strong protector, the breadwinner or even the warrior if you are protecting your loved ones. Being a strong shoulder to lean on is a good thing. Where did we ever get the idea that to be all of these things we couldn’t have emotions? If a man cried there must be something wrong with him, he was a sissy, (that was the term used in my youth) he was weak, and or he was effeminate. His peers would shun him.

So if a man cries is he weak? I don’t think so; I think he is just honest with himself. Maybe a better word would be he is strong enough. He is strong enough not to worry that someone will see him cry and yet open enough to let his emotions flow.

Crying can be for sorrow or for joy so why is it considered a weakness. Crying because some event just makes you happy, means your weak? I think we live in a warped world where reality has been pushed aside for something more programmed. That’s what all of these taboo’s are, just programmed responses that we have been taught, that we are suppose obey.

Whoever started this nonsense probably knew that if they could get us to accept this programming that we would never be able to find the spirit within us. That is the fear all controllers have, that we might wake up.

Lets go back to the original question, why is it wrong for a man to cry? I don’t consider a man whining about something to be in the category of crying. I mean for a man to cry because something makes him happy or sad. If we are not allowed to show our true emotions how can we ever know who we are?

I think that’s the real problem, a lot of us are afraid to find out who we really are. That is the first problem we have to overcome, until we decide we want to know ourselves and search for the truth, we’ll never find it. The truth can’t be found by going to some church, psychiatrist or any other guru. The real truth has to be found within yourself, when you start from there you might start to discover the truth. This is not to say that you should ignore the above mentioned, but most of them will be prejudice by their own beliefs. So the real truth has to be found with research on your own and an honest desire to find the truth. Be willing to open yourself up to things that might appear a little strange to you. Sometimes it might even go against all that you have believed in the past. That doesn’t mean you have to believe it, just have an open mind. A word of warning, you might just find yourself saying a little bit in the future, that is so real.

We have been programmed into fear. We fear we might be weak, might not have enough money, or we may lose our job. Fear is a terrible motivator but that is what most of us operate on. It’s like a big noose around our neck. As long as we don’t make any sudden or strange moves everything is ok. Start questioning the status quo and that noose gets a little tighter. Now here’s a novel idea, how about just taking that noose off. Lets start finding out who and what we are. We get back what we put out, so lets stop putting out the fear. Careful if you’re a male, you might find yourself crying, maybe just for the joy of it.

Charlie

 

The Spirit Within

by Charlie Phillips

Have you ever had that thought or little wish that if only this would happen.
Now we are not talking about a new car or house, those are just material things.
I’m talking about that wish for a change in life, or maybe if he/she would only
do or say this. Those things we don’t dwell on too long, maybe because if they
were to come true we would be lost. I say lost because for many of us although
we don’t admit it it’s easier to have a problem. After all if we didn’t have
something to complain about it would mean that either everything is OK or we
would have to take responsibility for our situation.

Now to carry that thought a little further, suppose that, that wish is really
your spirit telling you that it is possible. Stop and think about it. Sometime
in you past you have said that sure would be great to do whatever, fill in the
blank, and then awhile latter you realize you are doing it. Most of us just
accept that it is happing but forget that long ago wish. Now it really hasn’t
been that long when you put it in that time dimension, but on reflection was it
a wish or was your spirit telling you it was possible.

I believe it is our spirit talking to us, but unless we open ourselves up and
start getting rid of the entire negativity in our lives, we are never going to
be completely whole. I was going to say satisfied but satisfied is just another
way of say you have reached the end. Being whole on the other hand just opens us
up to more learning, awaking and to more love. Whoops did he just say the love
word? Now lets follow up on that for a minute, until we can give love, we are
going to have a hard time receiving it. Love has many facets it can be romance,
it can be a love of nature, it can be a love of life. I believe that unless you
are living in the dark side, that our spirit is telling us to go to love. When
we do that the possibilities are endless.

The next time you have that little thought, or wish, you might just consider
that maybe it’s your spirit telling you open up your heart, because it is
possible. Be willing to give, the rewards are boundless.

Charlie

Just A Touch

by Charlie Phillips

 

It was just a light hand on the shoulder as the waitress stopped to see if we
needed anything. Nothing but a simple reaction or maybe just to place herself at
our table, but the feeling lives on. This is not to say I have any fantasy that
there was any conscious meaning to it on her part. As I reflect on it I can
think back in time when similar occurrences have happened. The touch leaves an
imprint that lasts often beyond the person conveying that touch.

Could it be because I was brought up where touching and hugging wasn’t part of
our culture? I personally would never consciously touch someone I did not know.
Maybe I don’t initiate that touch because I don’t want to invade their space, or
am concerned about a negative reaction to that touch.

Does the physical contact with another person actually help us stay grounded?
Maybe connected to the spirit within us. Then again maybe it’s the people
involved, perhaps they are connected in ways that they do not know. Perhaps this
contact, although not a conscious thought given, is another way for our spirits
to acknowledge each other. This could explain why that touch, contact is
remembered even if the person is unknown to us.

I don’t claim to have the answers, actually I do have all the answers, but they
just don’t fit with the right questions. I have found the more I study our own
beliefs and history the more I know that I don’t know. The more honest our
search the more we find that what we have been told is at best a
misrepresentation of facts. Perhaps the touch is the spirit within trying to get
us in tune with ourselves. I have come to believe most of us don’t want to find
out who we are. The fear is that reality may be something we don’t know how to
handle.

Until we find to true spirit within we will beset with wars, economic woes,
hunger and all the other miseries that humans have put on themselves. When we
all search for the truth within, without the prejudices of religion and
nationality only then the entire before mentioned can end. When you read
something that goes against everything you have been taught or believe, do you
disregard it or can you read it and decipher if it has merit? As Aristotle said
“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without
accepting it.” I believe it is also an educated mind that can accept that their
preconceived ideas are wrong.

Ah but that touch, do you remember it?

Charlie

Middle Wife

by an Anonymous 2nd grade teacher

I’ve been teaching now for about fifteen years. I have two kids myself, but the best birth story I know is the one I saw in my own second-grade classroom a few years back.

When I was a kid, I loved show-and-tell. So I always have a few sessions with my students. It helps them get over shyness and usually, show-and-tell is pretty tame. Kids bring in pet turtles, model airplanes, pictures of fish they catch, stuff like that. And I never, ever place any boundaries or limitations on them. If they want to lug it in to school and talk about it, they’re welcome.

Well, one day this little girl, Erica, a very bright, very outgoing kid, takes her turn and waddles up to the front of the class with a pillow stuffed under her sweater.

She holds up a snapshot of an infant. “This is Luke, my baby brother, and I’m going to tell you about his birthday.”

“First, Mom and Dad made him as a symbol of their love, and then Dad put a seed in my Mom’s stomach, and Luke grew in there. He ate for nine months through an umbrella cord.”

She’s standing there with her hands on the pillow, and I’m trying not to laugh and wishing I had my camcorder with me. The kids are watching her in amazement.

“Then, about two Saturdays ago, my Mom starts saying and going, ‘Oh, Oh, Oh, Oh!’ Erica puts a hand behind her back and groans. “She walked around the house for, like an hour, ‘Oh, oh, oh!’ Now this kid is doing a hysterical duck walk and groaning.

“My Dad called the middle wife. She delivers babies, but she doesn’t have a sign on the car like the Domino’s man. They got my Mom to lie down in bed like this.” Then Erica lies down with her back against the wall.

“And then, pop! My Mom had this bag of water she kept in there in case he got thirsty, and it just blew up and spilled all over the bed, like psshhheew!” This kid has her legs spread with her little hands miming water flowing away. It was too much!

“Then the middle wife starts saying ‘push, push,’ and ‘breathe, breathe. They started counting, but never even got past ten. Then, all of a sudden, out comes my brother. He was covered in yucky stuff that they all said it was from Mom’s play-center, so there must be a lot of toys inside there.”

Then Erica stood up, took a big theatrical bow and returned to her seat. I’m sure I applauded the loudest. Ever since then, when it’s show-and-tell day, I bring my camcorder, just in case another “Middle Wife” comes along.

Live every day as if it is your LAST chance to make someone happy

Banned From Wal-Mart

This is why women should not take men shopping against their will.

Don’t Take Me If I Don’t Want To Go

After Mr. And Mrs. Fenton retired, Mrs. Fenton insisted her husband accompany her on her trips to Wal-Mart.

Unfortunately, Mr. Fenton was like most men–he found shopping boring and preferred to get in and get out.

Equally unfortunately, Mrs. Fenton was like most women–she loved to browse. One day Mrs. Fenton received the following letter from her local Wal-Mart.
________________________________________
Dear Mrs. Fenton,

Over the past six months, your husband has been causing quite a commotion in our store. We cannot tolerate this behavior and may be forced to ban both of you from the store. Our complaints against Mr. Fenton are listed below and are documented by our video surveillance cameras.

1. June 15: Took 24 boxes of condoms and randomly put them in people’s carts when they weren’t looking.

2. July 2: Set all the alarm clocks in Housewares to go off at 5-minute intervals.

3. July 7: Made a trail of tomato juice on the floor leading to the women’s restroom.

4. July 19: Walked up to an employee and told her in an official voice, “Code 3 in Housewares. Get on it right away.”

5. August 4: Went to the Service Desk and tried to put a bag of M&M’s on layaway.

6. September 14: Moved a “CAUTION – WET FLOOR” sign to a carpeted area.

7. September 15: Set up a tent in the camping department and told other shoppers he’d invite them in if they would bring pillows and blankets from the bedding department.

8. September 23: When a clerk asked if they could help him he began crying and screamed, “Why can’t you people just leave me alone?”

9. October 4: Looked right into the security camera and used it as a mirror while he picked his nose.

10. November 10: While handling guns in the hunting department, he asked the clerk where the antidepressants were.

11. December 3: Darted around the store suspiciously while loudly humming the “Mission Impossible” theme.

12. December 6: In the auto department, he practiced his “Madonna look” by using different sizes of funnels.

13. December 18: Hid in a clothing rack and when people browsed through, yelled “PICK ME! PICK ME!”

14. December 21: When an announcement came over the loud speaker, he assumed a fetal position and screamed, “OH NO! IT’S THOSE VOICES AGAIN!”

And last, but not least …

15. December 23: Went into a fitting room, shut the door, waited awhile, then yelled very loudly, “Hey! There’s no toilet paper in here!”

Regards,

Wal-mart